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Like everything in life, effectiveness lies in being proactive about your health and happiness.

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Managing our emotions is said to be one way of improving the quality of our life. How much we really know about ourselves, according to psychologists, is a measure of our personal growth. This is achieved by knowing how much we have learned about ourselves as a result of our personal circumstances and experiences: where we lived, the time we lived, and the way we lived. Of course, we don’t know our future, or can we “creatively visualize our future”?

As a child, while all my school friends were drilled to be specialist trained — to be doctors, lawyers, and engineers — what excited me most was to be out of the ordinary. Much to the surprise of my parents, my peers, my teachers, and myself, I did not want to be a professional in any one field of study; I wanted to be “multidisciplinary.” I had a fascination for multi-tasking, to try my hand at many things. I was warned that being a “jack of all trades, and a master of none,” could get me nowhere. Yet, I pursued this course of study and experience.

While all my classmates excelled in their individual fields of study, I seemed to lag behind, spreading my knowledge too thin, as I wanted to travel the world, to acquire person-centered experiences from personal encounters with people of various backgrounds, to study languages, creeds, and cultures, and to learn more about philosophy, psychology, social sciences, and the dynamics of business administration. All of this took place in a college in Michigan, USA, on scholarship.

What later excited me was to travel around the world, to understand which situations and circumstances gave me inner energy, whether they involved being around people of all races, religions, or seeking quiet solitude in an Outback while on a “backpacker’s holiday,” all the while trying hard to feel positive and energized, to do more and seek out new experiences.

One of the downsides of my experience was sometimes being lulled into procrastination. Everyone goes through this phase from time to time, trying to do too much. These moments and situations often made me put off big and important tasks for days, in fact, for much longer than planned.

Another downside was keeping complaining about what life throws at you, the curveballs you have to face, and still keeping a straight bat to face life’s challenges. My realization in the end was the experience I received, whether it was in a business or personal partnership. I always tried to maintain my boundaries in any of my relationships, and this has been a worthwhile experience which I cherish, thanks in large measure to my training in Person-Centered Counseling.

One of the best lessons that my relationship experience taught me over the years was how to deal with stress. When stressful situations arose, my gut reaction was to run and hide. But over time, my response to such situations was to take recourse in coping mechanisms to keep calm. This was no easy task. However, this can best be achieved when I analyzed my SWOT position, my strengths, and my weaknesses. What skills you have, and what weaknesses in personal relationships have an overpowering tendency to slip into one’s life. I felt if I did not possess these tendencies, I would most often be classed as an automaton.

Staying healthy and living a positive quality lifestyle is the most important characteristic in one’s life. I found this life condition tied to preventive care, while many at my age now rely on treatment or cure. I must admit that neither medicinal treatment nor complete cure is possible or practical to overcome the effects of aging. Age is a number, and like numbers, it reposes in the brain. Dosing with medicines has never been the solution, in my humble opinion. Treatment of an ailment after it pops up is not as effective as being proactive about health and well-being. But that does not mean you have to suffer ill-health in old age.

Like everything in life, effectiveness lies in being proactive about your health and happiness.

Like what I did in my career pathway, having to choose between specialization and multidimensional progression, the latter helped me build a plan to stave off uncontrollable health issues and conditions before they occur, or delay/avoid them for as long as humanly possible.

This I have found added value to the things or beliefs that determine how you live your life and what you consider are the priorities in your lifestyle and/or likely the measure of your success.

Victor Cherubim

Victor Cherubim is a London-based writer and a frequent columnist of the Sri Lanka Guardian

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